I married myself a cowboy. Not a cowboy in the sense of ranching or roping; he doesn’t wear a hat and prefers barefeet to boots. But this man is wild and fearless like no cowboy you’ve ever met. He’s been called rogue, classified as occasionally self-destructive and will take on any challenge to the death. (Although jumping from helicopters and spear fishing with sharks is nothing in comparison to diving into ones unchartered soul.) He’s also got a cowboy heart, and over the years, many turbulent years, as he comes into himself in such a beautiful way, he takes me on a journey daily through humor, adventure and occasional unsolicited drama. This Cowboy is after my heart and the lovely thing about it, is every day he seeks more of me, I learn more of who I am; more of my soul is recovered through gazing into his.
Did you unknowingly draw to you another being that causes disruption in your life? Or perhaps you are drawn to someone you feel is your soulmate, but you just met. There could be a very good reason for that; the energy you feel, the pull you get swept away in is a force as powerful as the tides. Those people, whether for a season or a lifetime, are holding a mirror to you asking you to behold. Perceive.
There are ancient texts and Essene teachings that ultimately guide us through truth and self discovery. IF we are willing to use them, and IF we are willing to be honest with ourselves. These tools can be used every time you are faced with another human being. Whether at work, at home, at the market or anywhere else, people are drawn into your life to assist you in seeing yourself; the true authentic you, the one that you may not even know.
I’d like to share the Seven Essene Mirrors with you here as they have helped me to discover new ways of approaching relationships and understanding. By understanding the basic principles behind these mirrors, we can begin recognizing our own worldviews, belief systems, behavioral patterns, and cognitive biases; we can be more aware of how we react or respond to ourselves and those around us. In our search to make ourselves whole again, we slowly begin picking up pieces of our soul that we’ve lost along the way, and these mirrors are incredibly helpful and revealing. Although in years past I may never have admitted the beauty of what I’ve experienced through this cowboy, I have come to appreciate him in a way that has developed our friendship, our souls and our passion for one another and for life in ways I never would’ve fathomed. He has held a mirror to me as I have gotten to know myself, the beautiful and the hag, the wise and the foolish, the maiden and the crone; I’ve come to love and honor each aspect of myself, without the need to deny, repress or furiously condemn. As I am less critical of myself, I am able to practice the same honor towards others.
As we acknowledge the truths that are reflected back to us, we are given the opportunity to make a new choice in our awareness, which in turn flips the pain upside down, exposing the vulnerable underbelly of the issue, and great healing follows. Patterns change. May you be blessed and find wisdom, even when the looking is painful. And it is. With every death is a new birth; come alive and be reborn through the eyes of love.
This reflects to us that which we are. It is something we ourselves are doing or where we ourselves have been in error or wounded.
This reflects to us that which we judge. It is something we have an emotional charge with, perhaps something we have been wounded by in the past and have not forgiven. It is good to discern; however if we judge and condemn with an emotional charge, we will attract exactly what we judge into our lives.
This reflects back to us something we Lost, Gave Away, or had Taken Away. When we see something we love and desire in another, it is often something we have lost, given away or had stolen in our own lives. Every relationship is a relationship with self and often we try to reclaim what was lost as a child. It could be joy, innocence, honesty and integrity, courage or love. All of which can be reclaimed within self.
This reflects back to us our most forgotten love. This could be a way of life, a lost or unfinished relationship. Often it is a past experience where a wrong conclusion was created. These experiences will recreate themselves over and over until the right conclusion is registered in the soul as wisdom.
This reflects back to us Father/Mother. It is often said we marry our father or mother. We also often become them acting out the same healthy and unhealthy patterns we learned as a child. Our fathers and mothers are representative of Gods. It will often reflect the same relationship we have with others and the Father/Mother God principle.
This reflects back to us the Quest for Darkness or what is often referred to as the Dark Night of the Soul. This is when we meet our darkness; our greatest challenges, our greatest fears and judgements. We have been gathering the tools and understandings in life to confront them. We have a choice in every experience to greet it as a powerful manifesting God/Goddess or a victim.
This reflects back to us our self-perception. Others will perceive and treat us according to how we perceive and treat ourselves. If we have a low self-esteem and do not acknowledge our wisdom and beauty, others will not acknowledge them either. If we are angry, bitter and unloving to others, they in turn will often react in the same way towards us. If we change our perception of ourselves, we change the world.
“See through his eyes what he sees. Who then is looking out from his eyes?” ~ Rumi